Was completing your first triathlon on your list of New Year’s Resolutions last year? Perhaps it was, but for one reason or another, you weren’t able to reach your goal? Do you have fears that are holding you back? Do you lack confidence? Have you pegged yourself as the person who “always quits”? Are you always waiting for NEXT YEAR?
2013 is quickly approaching and although it may seem cliche, a new year offers a fresh start and is perfect time to make a new goal, dream a new dream and complete your first triathlon!
Doug, our good friend, life coach and fellow triathlete wrote an amazing blog post about this very topic. We hope that it encourages you to dream again, challenges you to set a new goal and inspires you to take action to make 2013 your best year yet!
The best way to make your dreams come true is to wake up. – Paul Valery
Have you ever had a dream in life, a dream you began to live into, only to have it crash and burn, and discover your dream has actually turned into a nightmare? If so, that means you have something in common with just about anyone you will meet today. So, what do YOU do when one of your dreams in life becomes a nightmare? Quit? Withdraw? Give up? Get cynical? Pout? Blame others? Blame yourself? Hide? Throw yourself into the fires of addictive behavior? Become the victim?
All these are real options (and there are plenty more than I’ve listed), AND they describe the road most traveled by those disappointed in life, when one’s dreams fail to make it to reality. It is at this point you can set yourself apart from the pull of this murky current, and go against the flow. How so? Make a sharp right turn onto the road less traveled. And do it before your regret indicator begins to flash its warning signal to you.
A man is not old until regrets take the place of dreams. – John Barrymore
To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream; not only plan, but also believe. – Anatole France
When I was 32 years old, one of my dreams in life came crashing down around me. You see, I had dreamed of being a young, strong, healthy father for my two sons, as well as, a vibrant, sexy husband for my beautiful wife. That dream got seriously interrupted when I received a diagnosis about a pervasive form of arthritis that had decided to jump onto the center stage of my life, effectively upstaging my dreams about health and happiness… or at least, I believed THAT WAS THE WAY IT WAS, at least, until… I started dreaming again!
There are those who look at things the way they are, and ask why… I dream of things that never were, and askwhy not? – Robert Kennedy
When I was 50 I decided to do something rather audacious… I decided to step out into a dream, a dream of doing something very different from what I had done vocationally for over 30 years. You can well imagine what it would take to take oneself on in this manner… and you would be right! It was one of the greatest personal challenges of my adult life. I left the only place I had ever lived, the only people I really knew, in order to embark onto a vocational path I DIDN’T KNOW! But, regardless of what I didn’t know, I still believed it was the right next step in my life adventure.
The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams. – Eleanor Roosevelt
Now, I would like to say that things went smoothly from this point forward. And that would be a lie! They didn’t. You see, I used to think that all it took to make your dreams a reality was stepping into your dreamsand deciding to risk something (i.e. financial security). I found out rather quickly, that wasn’t the case. Nope! The real test came when THE DREAM started taking shape into a shape OTHER than what I had dreamed of, AND I hadn’t really considered the possibility of THAT ever happening… EVER! Yikes!
So, what do you do when you get a diagnosis informing you of a future, where you at best, will be the shadow of the man you had dreamed of being?
Yes, what do you do when the dream you risked all for becomes some kind of nightmare, falling far short of anything you had ever hoped for?
These are good questions. In fact, they’re very important questions.
If one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavors to live the life which he has imagined, he will meet with success unexpected in common hours. – Henry David Thoreau
What do these two disappointments in my life have in common? After both of these nightmares had their15 seconds of fame in my life… I decided to WAKE UP AND DREAM AGAIN!
So, with a New Year in sight, here’s a couple of questions….
Has your dream been rear-ended? Or maybe even totaled?
Well, what if your dream-agent just called and said, “Good news, you’re covered, now go pick out a new dream to take yourself forward into an amazing future!”
Sound too good to be true? Only to those who haven’t been paying attention to their regret indicator.
The truth is (and it is the truth)…
WHEN YOUR DREAM BECOMES A NIGHTMARE… WAKE UP AND DREAM AGAIN!
1. This could be one of the most important practices you will ever incorporate into your life… BELIEVE ME!
2. If you get THIS ONE down… nightmares won’t be able to keep YOU down… EVER!
Doug is the co-founder of Awake Coaching where he and his beautiful wife, Valerie provide coaching services and workshops, a sort of conversational wake up call for individuals ready to wake up and take advantage of what’s right in front of them each day.